Everyone always goes on about how stressful planning a wedding can be. Well I won’t lie, yes if has been stressful, but it is also a learning process. I always try to take planning one step at a time but I will tell you, there’s only so much one person can do! I’ve been really lucky, my mom has helped out a ton, my fiancé has done what I’ve told him to do, and so many people have offered to help. I am very grateful for everyone and everything that has happened for this wedding so far, but that’s not to say that there hasn’t been some hiccups along the way.
One thing I have learned over and over again and not just wedding planning, but if it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be. There was this amazing venue I wanted, and I wanted a specific room in the building, however when we went to talk to venue about renting it out, the refused simply because they said we would not have enough people coming. Granted we had thought about 100 guests and he wanted 130 minimum and was not willing to budge in the slightest. I was heart broken, but we found an even better venue and are actually inviting 150 people!
An unfortunate lesson I’ve learned is knowing who your real friends are and which people will make you a priority. You will have those friends who will help you make invitations, fly in from another country to make it to your bachelorette party, and drive hours just to come to your dress fitting. But additionally, you may have those people who don’t want to drive an hour to go to your bridal shower, or who don’t show up to any event, including the wedding itself, without even a word. Things happen, and obviously this isn’t the case for everyone that comes to a wedding, or even something that happens at every event, but it does happen and it’s hard to not take these things personally. But every person and memory is still something to be grateful for.
The last big lesson I would say I’ve really learned is how to budget and how many unexpected little things come up that cost money. I’ve had 17 months to save but it still proved difficult and now that we’re two months out I am glad I have been saving what I could every month. I use an app that rounds up my change to the nearest dollar and I put that in an account and have been saving for the little things like my hair and makeup cost without even thinking about it! I saved over $300 just by using that one trick. For the actually wedding I also recommend saving $100 a week or more and putting that towards the actual cost of the venue. These little tricks have helped me immensely to save money without feeling like I’m going broke just to get married.
The whole wedding planning is almost over to me and the hardest part is staying calm and not freaking out over every little thing that has to be done. I take things one day at a time and do what I can when I can. All I can say is I’m so excited to marry the love of my life in just about 2 months!